120a Negative Emotions database

Negative Emotions Database

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Each Negative Emotion has it’s own dedicated page, with MORE Practical Tips on how to deal with the emotional pain.

FeelingDefinitionPractical Tips
AgitatedFeeling or appearing troubled or nervous.
Be patient and accept the situation you are in, or do something positive about it.
Know the Agitation is there to prompt or create learning for you.
AngryA strong feeling of displeasure or hostility.
Walk away immediately when you realize you are about to allow your anger to turn to rage or becoming violent.
AnxietyA state of uneasiness and apprehension, as about future uncertainties.If certain people in your life cause you anxiety and you don't feel comfortable, can't confront them, make changes so that you don't have to be around them.
AnnoyanceIrritated by (someone); someone has made you a little angry.
Consider you reaction rather than an automatic response. Know that your mood and attitude affect your response
AbusiveExtremely offensive and insulting.
Learn the triggers that create the abusive feelings and have strategies for avoiding their escalation.
Adopt breathing exercises or distraction techniques
AggrievedEngaging in or characterized by habitual violence and cruelty.
Address the issue, either speak up or write, if you think it's worth the effort.
AbandonedHaving been deserted or left.Appreciate that if someone decides to walk away, your life carries on without them in the manner YOU want it to.
Affronted Feeling insulted intentionally, especially openly.The negative energy that consumes you when feeling affronted can unbalance your mind-set.
BitterFeeling or showing anger, hurt, or resentment because of bad experiences or a sense of unjust treatment
Just know that feelings of Bitterness eat away at you inside, work to release them, with forgiveness.
Bad Family VibesNegative energy with family relationshipsBad Family Vibes have a negative effect on all involved, decide to work towards healing situations where possible.
BereftDeprived of or lacking (something). (of a person) sad and lonely, especially through someone's death or departure.Just know that nothing is missing, it is there, you just have to look for it in another form.
Feeling weary and impatient because one is unoccupied or lacks interest in one's current activity.When feeling bored decide either to change what you are doing or change the way you think about what you are doing.
Bad MemoriesRetaining and recalling past experiences in a way that has a negative effect.Know that everything happens for a reason.
BulliedHaving someone/something use superior strength or influence to intimidate you, typically to force you to do something.Decide to address the feeling of being Bullied from a different mind-set.
BlamedOthers declaring that you are responsible for a fault or wrong. Understanding where why they blame you can sometimes dilute the bad feelings it creates in you.
ConfrontationA hostile or argumentative meeting or situation between opposing parties.Know that facing up to the confrontation is being true to your values and what is important to you
ConfusionUnable to think clearly; bewildered.Work out the end result you require, create goals and visualise the end product.
Cut OffNot attached in any shape or form
Look at the reality of the situation with New Eyes. Decide on a way forward, letting go of attachments, or re-connecting.
Overly Concerned

Worried, troubled, or anxious.Being Concerned takes up a lot of energy, choose were you place your Concern.
CynicalBelieving that people are motivated purely by self-interest; distrustful of human sincerity or integrity.Cynicism is borne of distrust, so can be felt as an alarm bell to bring caution to our attention.
DisgruntledFeeling angry or dissatisfied.Accept the reality of the situation and decide you can move on.
DisappointedUnhappy because something that you hoped for or expected did not happenChoose to move forward after a disappointment, not backwards.
DesperateFeeling or showing a hopeless sense that a situation is so bad as to be impossible to deal with.(of a person) Having a great need or desire for something.
Something needs to change……work out what it is, your mind-set? Your situation? Face your fears, they will keep you stuck if you don't.
DejectedSad and depressed; dispirited.Lift your spirits by focussing on the good things in your life, start with the small stuff!
DemotivatedLoss of enthusiasm and interestAsk yourself, What do I need to do right now?Get inspired…..Focus on how action would benefit what's important to you.
DepressedIn a state of unhappiness or despondency.Re-evaluate your expectations of self and others, making sure they are realistic.
DisheartenedA loss of determination or confidence.See the situation as an exciting challenge and work out how to move forward.
DisillusionedDisappointed in someone or something that one discovers to be less good than one had believed.Just know that everyone lives by there own set of Values and therefore everyone will behave in accordance to their own standards.
DemoralisedA feeling of lost confidence or hope. Inject positivity into your mind-set, even when the behaviour of others could be bringing you down.
DownbeatPessimistic or Gloomy. Being aware of when you feel Down is the key to changing it work out a strategy that works for you.

Lack of respect or courtesy. Shown lack of respect for, insult. When you become aware of the feeling of being disrespected, ask yourself if this is reality or just your perception.
DistractionNot able to concentrate on somethingRemind yourself of the important priorities that need to be done today and focus on the benefits of getting them done.
DespondentIn low spirits from loss of hope or courage.Visualise where you want to be and how you want to feel. Write down you goals in every area of life.
DangerThe possibility of suffering harm or injury. Feelings and being aware of Danger heighten our senses, know that taking an emotionally balanced viewpoint will bring a balanced, considered reaction.
DeflatedSudden loss of confidence or feeling dispirited.Look at your expectations…Are they too high?
DoomedLikely to have an unfortunate and inescapable outcome; ill-fated.Decide to turn negative thought patterns around.
Distant(of a person) not intimate; cool or reserved. Ask yourself if something is missing, hence the space?
DistrustfulFeeling or showing distrust of someone or something.Feeling of Distrust are there for a reason, pay them respect and they will serve you well.
DisinterestedHaving or feeling no interest in something; uninterested.If you want o be interested in something and the interest is missing……link it to your Highest Values (what's important to you).
DiscontentedDissatisfied, especially with one's circumstances. Acceptance and Gratitude are great levellers, focus on what you HAVE in your life, rather than what you HAVE NOT.
Empty Nest SyndromeA general feeling of loneliness that parents or guardians may feel when one or more of their children leave home;..
Focus on the benefits to your child's life of moving out and on in their life.
See this as a new era for you and embrace it with excitement and enthusiasm.
ExhaustedExtremely tired and without enough energy to do anything else Check your energy levels, are you over doing things? Can you take better care of yourself?
Perhaps drink more water, exercise more.
EmasculatedFeeling deprived (a man) of his male role or identity. Making (someone or something) weaker or less effective.Standing up for yourself and what you believe in will stop you feeling and being Emasculated.
Financial InsecurityFeeling insecure because of money situation (lack)Use the uncomfortable situation to motivate you to make twice the effort in improving your status.
FearfulFeeling afraid; showing fear or anxiety.Look at your situation with New Eyes, check your expectations and set new intentions.
Frightened Afraid or anxious.
When fright is there because of a danger, take protective action. When fright is there because of a fear, choose to face and heal it
Fed UpAnnoyed, unhappy, or bored, especially with a situation that has existed for a long time.
Choose to think inspiring thoughts, How can you make today special for you? Or somebody else?
Write down 2 action steps that will set you on your way today.
FrustratedFeeling or expressing distress and annoyanceCheck there is something you are not vocalising, do you need to speak out?
Financially InadequateNot feeling financially good enough.Check your financial expectations in relation to the reality of your income and work with it rather than against it.
Financially DeprivedNot receiving the financial rewards you deserve.
If you are not receiving what you should be, stand up for yourself and say so.
Face the fear that is stopping you retrieving what is rightfully yours.
Fear of Being Alone 'Monophobia' is an acute fear of being alone and having to cope without a specific person, or perhaps any person, in close proximity.Having a 'Fear of Being Alone' can keep us in a Relationship for the WRONG reason!
Fear of ‘Not Being Liked’Being afraid of the impending threat that others do not see you in a favourable manner.To keep a balanced mind-set we have to be able to deal with 'Not Being Liked' by everyone, as this is reality
Financially FrustratedFeeling or expressing distress and annoyance resulting from an inability to change or achieve Financial aspirations. 'Necessity is the Mother of invention' - a saying which is wise to remember when you feel Financially Frustrated.
Fear of RejectionA fear of a refusal to accept, approve, or support something from someone else; an irrational and abnormal anxiety about the possibility of being made to feel rejected.'Appreciate there is nothing to fear but fear itself, focussing on the possible rejection will attract that very thing into your life.
GloomyFeeling distressed or pessimisticRecognise this is a state that you can shake off and choose to do something inspiring or exciting to break the mood.
GuiltyFeeling responsible of / for a specified wrong doing.First check that the guilt you feel is actually something you have direct responsibility for, many of us take on other peoples guilt, if this is the case decide to let it go!
GriefIntense sorrow, especially caused by someone's death.Accept that Grief is part of the healing process after the death (or departure) of someone close. Allow yourself whatever time is needed to move through this period.
GrumpyDC104 Snapping at someone because you are in a bad mood yourself.Identify the triggers that creates your Grumpiness. Awareness will help you avoid, heal, deal with those situations.
Heavy-heartedSad, melancholyFind a distraction that lifts your spirits (exercise, go outdoors, meditate, listen to music, watch a comedy etc).
HesitantTentative, unsure, or slow in acting or speaking.Think clearly about when the right time would be to act. Set intentions and create clarity about what you need to do. Focus on the benefits of just doing it (JDI).
HamperedFeeling hindered or having movement and progress impeded.Realise everything is as it should be, therefore when you feel something is Hampering you, it is needing your attention, in some form or other.
HypocryticalBehaving in a way that suggests one has higher standards or more noble beliefs than is the case. Hypocracy is often used when the truth of the matter is too hard to face, or ownership of the truth is unable to be communicated.
Headless Chicken
To be very busy doing a lot of things, but in a way that is not very effective.Watch you behaviour from an outside point of view - is it chaotic?
IrritationFeeling annoyed, impatient, or angryLook at the situation in a less judgmental fashion.
Insecure(of a person) Not confident or assured; uncertain or anxious.
(of a thing) Not firm or set; unsafe.
To create a Secure mind-set build up your Self Belief.
ImpatientHaving or showing a tendency to be quickly irritated or provoked:Be aware of your patience slipping in the moment and change your thoughts to something more conducive with the situation.
InadequateUnable to deal with a situation or with life:Not adequate; lacking the quality or quantity required; insufficient for a purpose.Know that not everything is in our control, so deal with the situation as far as it is possible.
IgnoredNot taken any notice of or acknowledged; disregarded intentionallyDon't take it personally, it's probably not about YOU!
IndignantFeeling or showing anger or annoyance at what is perceived as unfair treatment.Taking responsibility or action in the situation may be called for.
IsolatedHaving minimal contact or little in common with others.
Realised we are all connected, despite distance, silence and not seeing people. So FEEL the connection.
InconvenienceThe state or fact of being troublesome or difficult with regard to one's personal requirements or comfort. Cause trouble or difficulty .When feeling Inconvenienced we can often feel resentment build up.
InsultedSpoken to or treated with disrespect or scornful abuse.When you feel insulted, appreciate your buttons have been pushed.
InferiorLower in rank, status, quality or position. Take responsibility for letting it go and replacing it with empowering emotions. (Equality / personal power etc.).
IneffectiveNot producing any significant or desired effect.Address the subject matter with a questioning mind.
JudgementalInclined to make judgments, especially moral or personal ones.Being Judgemental (when not appropriate) narrows your viewpoint and opinions. Know that if you judge others they are more likely to judge you (Law of Attraction).
JealousFeeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages.
Feeling or showing suspicion of someone's unfaithfulness in a relationship
Decide to let go of the jealousy and fill your life with what you think is missing.
LonelySad because one has no friends or company.
Create new habits, go out and talk to people, make new connections. Smile and adopt a friendly attitude.
LethargicA lack of energy; sleepiness
Have a purpose or goals that make you jump out of bed, if you haven't got one, GET ONE!
Left OutFeeling excluded or omitted Look to understand the Values of the other parties, now they are playing to their own Values.
ListlessLacking energy or enthusiasmAppreciate that living in the moment, taking action, creates what we want in life. Focus on the end result.
Lack of Self RespectLack of respect for oneself, one's character, and one's conductOur Self Respect comes from within, no matter what others thing of us, if we lack SELF respect only one person can build it up………..and that’s YOU!
LazyUnwilling to work or use energyAppreciate that your behaviour is a reflection of your mind-set.
Letting myself downFailing to meet your own expectations of yourself; feeling disappointed in oneself.Feeling you are letting yourself down is a sign that you KNOW what needs to be done (and that is perhaps something different from what you have been doing).

To influence or manage shrewdly or deviously:Another way of looking at Manipulation, is realising that others are persuading/managing/coercing you into a different way of thinking.
MiserableVery uncomfortable or unhappy; wretched.Remember being Miserable is a choice, which is great because we can change it!
MoodyGiven to unpredictable changes of mood, especially sudden bouts of gloominess or sullenness
Just know being Moody is a choice, when you are aware of your Moodiness.
Adjust your thought patterns if you want to alter your Mood.
Not NeededOur place or presence is no longer required.Focus on where we can make a difference in the present moment.
NumbDevoid of feeling in respect of engaging in emotional connections
Be aware that emotional Numbness could be a form of self protection, waiting for the conscious mind to take over and move forward.
Not ValuedNot considered to be important or beneficial; not cherished. Be aware of WHY you are doing something, if that WHY is no longer serving you, work out how to make changes.
Not Good EnoughA feeling of not coming up to your own and others expectations.Check your expectations are realistic, we often make life very hard for ourselves.
NegativeLacking positive or constructive features.Feeling Negative can only send you one way……down. Resolve to change your mind-set, focus on what you WANT to happen.
NervousEasily agitated or alarmed; tending to be anxious; highly strung, apprehensiveFocus on what you want to achieve in this situation, setting intentions can build up your confidence and alievate nerves.
No Time
Devoid of time to do what is wanted or required.We spend our time and energy doing what we think is important to us. Until we have our Values (wht is important to us) in the right order, we will randomly flit around.
Nagged Being harassed by (someone) constantly doing something that you are averse to.When others are 'nagging' you unless you can block it out, it will eventually have a detrimental affect on the relationship as it will create resentment.
Out of ControlNot under management or direction;
Take responsibility for your own position. Have certainty around what you want to happen.
OverwhelmedBuried or drowning beneath a huge mass of obligations or tasks.Take a break, even if only for a few minutes and come back refreshed.
OverweightAbove a weight considered normal or desirable.Work out HOW you want to look and decide to do whatever it takes to HAVE that body.
OffendedCause to feel upset, annoyed, or resentful.If you feel Offended, it's pushed one of your buttons, (touched one of your Values) look to see if there is any truth in the offending remark, look from above your emotions.
(feeling) OlderBeing aware of the aging process.Taking good care of your mind and body is the best way to work with the aging process and the feelings of getting older.
People PleasingPeople Pleaser: A person who spends a lot of energy pleasing others.Awareness is the key! Work out WHY you are pleasing others (to be liked / needed / busy .
PressuredA compelling or constraining influence, such as a moral force, on the mind or willAddress the pressure in your life by either working towards completion or voicing your concerns around the issue.
PoorHaving little or no wealth and few or no possessions.To change the way you feel around being Poor, us Gratitude as a tool.
PanicSudden uncontrollable fear or anxiety,
Take some deep breaths.
Remind yourself to Relax, we often get carried away in the moment.
ProcrastinationTo put off doing something, especially out of habitual carelessness or laziness.Just know that if you put it off, it doesn't go away. Focus and make lists on the benefits of taking specific action Now.
Pessimistic"A tendency to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen.
A belief that this world is as bad as it could be or that evil will ultimately prevail over good."
Look at situations with New Eyes and see the Reality of the situation. Create a balanced view point, rather than projecting your beliefs onto it.
PerfectionistA person who refuses to accept any standard short of perfection. Being a Perfectionist can produce FANTASTIC results, but at what cost?
Physical PainPain is an unpleasant feeling often caused by intense or damaging stimuli.Physical Pan can numb the mind when it is strong enough, it can also resist our movements and activities.
RejectedTo be refused to accepted, submitted to, believed, or made use of.
Realise that when you are feeling rejected, it's probably more about them than about you.
RushedGeneral haste or busyness
There is a difference between feeling Rushed and being Efficient, so give yourself permission to slow down to a level that works for you.
RestlessUnable to rest or relax as a result of anxiety or boredom
Know that if you are not focussing on your Values and what is important to you, you may feel Restless.
RemorseDeep regret or guilt for a wrong committedJust know that feelings of Remorse will hold you back.
ResentfulFeeling or expressing bitterness or indignation at having been treated unfairly.Know that the emotional energy you use when feeling Resentful, creates blocks.
Self DoubtA lack of faith or confidence in oneself.Self doubt can destroy confidence and stop you progressing along your desired path.
SadAffected or characterized by sorrow or unhappiness.Identify which area of Life is giving you the sadness.
StressSubject to physical or mental pressure, tension, or strain.You have to exert energy to be stressed and uptight, so relax into a naturally relaxed state (Use Survival Techniques to do this)
ScaredFearful; frightenedFeeling Scared or frightened is a sign to heighten your senses. Time to either 'step up to the challenge' or be cautious of what is going on around you.
SuspiciousHaving or showing a cautious distrust of someone or something.
Work out where your suspicions have come from, is this about you or them?
ShockedTo feel surprised and upset
Allow your mind to clear, take deep breathes. Know that when you are in shock you do not have a clear head
StupidLacking intelligence or common sense
Don’t beat yourself up, we all have to learn and start somewhere. Comparison to others can be detrimental to our mind-set.
StagnantNot moving or flowing; motionless.Just take one small step to start the ball rolling. Decide to try something totally different.
Sorry for MyselfSad and self-pitying.Focus on the benefits of you situation right now, look beyond your current thought patterns
ScruffyShabby, untidy or dirty.Know the standard of smartness that is acceptable to you.
StuckAt a standstill, bereft of ideas,To free yourself from being stuck, be willing to open you mind to new ideas.
SmotheredFeeling of suffocation; not having the room/space to exist.Choose to vocalise your feelings in an appropriate manner or accept the behaviour with good grace.
Self LoathingHatred of oneself. Self Loathing can be dissolved by acknowledging what trait within yourself you dislike.
Separate (within a relationship)Not feeling the connection with your partner. Feeling Separate or distant from our Partner is a signal to take action.
SluggishSlow-moving or inactive.Feeling Sluggish can indicate that your mind and body is not working to full capacity.
StifledTo feel smothered or suffocated by or as if by close confinement in a stuffy room. Come up for air!! Look at the situation with New Eyes.
TenseIn a state of mental or nervous tension
Focus on your muscles one by one, starting with your face, relaxing them as you work down your body.
Taken Advantage OfTo be imposed upon, unfairly: as by exploiting a weakness. Be aware that at some level you ALLOW others to take advantage of you.
Taken for GrantedAlways expected to be available to serve in some way, without thanks or recognition; to be valued too lightly. Know that it is your responsibility to free yourself from Being Taken for Granted.
TrappedTo be deceived or tricked by means of a scheme or plan. To feel stuckWhen feeling trapped, ask yourself Quality Questions, the answers will lead you to a way out. Be open minded about what to do next, a closed mind keeps you stuck.
TiredExhausted of strength or energy
Take some deep breaths, more oxygen, have a drink of water, some fresh air.
TrepidationA feeling of fear or anxiety about something that may happen.Know everything can be addressed by overcoming the fears and blocks creating this negative feeling.
Time WastingThe action of wasting time, delaying tactics, avoidance.Be aware that every moment in life is precious.
UncertaintyNot having sure knowledge.Uncertainty can be used to keep us on our toes
UnheardNot heard, not listened toCheck you are being direct and making good sense.
UnderminedFeeling less confident, less powerful, or less likely to succeed.
Focus on your own skills and talents. When others try to undermine you, it's because of what is going on for them, it's not always about you.
UpsetFeeling anxious, uneasiness,trouble or griefIdentify the trigger that made you upset, now look beyond that, to the deeper reason, which of your Values does it conflict with?
UnlovedNot Loved
To reverse the 'unloved' feelings, fill you mind with whom you love and how you love them, as well as who loves you and how they love you.
UsedTo feel Taken Advantage of...Feelings of being Used are best used as a trigger to create change, taking responsibility for making that change happen, is yours.
UnprofessionalBelow or contrary to the standards expected in a particular profession[16:40:46] Sue Lindsay: Create a 'job description' as to how 'professional' looks in your industry, aspire to fulfil that list.
Under Valued by OthersFeelings of being rated insufficiently; lack of being appreciated by others.Most importantly see and appreciate the Value that you add to the scenario.
UnsureNot feeling, showing, or done with confidence and certainty. If decisions need to be made and you are Unsure, question yourself and have faith in your answers.
Unbalanced(of a person) emotionally or mentally disturbed. Not giving accurate, fair, or equal coverage to all aspects; partial. Awareness of what is out of kilter can be all it takes to make the adjustment, on other occasions it can take careful planning.
UnsupportedNot given financial, emotional or physical assistance.'You never loose anything, it just gets transformed' - so where is your support network now?
UnorganisedNot organised.Being Unorganised costs you time, money and energy.
UnpunctualNot happening or doing something at the agreed or proper time.Unpunctuality is a trait that can be redressed. Aforethought and consideration is needed to reverse it.
UncomfortableCausing or feeling slight pain or physical discomfort.Feeling Uncomfortable is a great alarm bell, a warning that something isn't as it should be.
UnproductiveNot producing or able to produce large amounts of work; goods, crops, or other commodities.Decide what you want to produce. Be aware of what it take to have this come to fruition, both physically and emotionally.
Unconnected (from Partner)A feeling of not being joined or connected to your PartnerAppreciate feeling Unconnected as a sign to start working on and in the relationship.
UnhealthyHarmful to health.We all know what it takes to stay healthy so when you feel unhealthy, ask yourself "What habits and lifestyle do I need to change, to make the difference I want to see?"
UntidyNot arranged neatly and in order.Untidiness MAY have a place, decide if the level of untidiness is acceptable, or unacceptable.
VictimisedBeing singled out for cruel or unjust treatment.
Take responsibility for your own position. Stand up and be counted. Work on building up your confidence and self belief. Know that you can find the strength within you to make that stand.
VulnerableExposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally:Focus on your strengths and create certainty in the situation.
WorriedGive way to anxiety or unease;To eliminate Worry, either…..DO something about it, DATE it…..put it in a diary to deal with it another time, DUMP it, if there is nothing you can do about it, DELEGATE it where appropriate.
Wound UpAroused: brought to a state of great tension; Recognise your heightened state and be mindful of how you react/respond.
WeakLacking or showing a lacking of strength(of a person) emotionally or mentally disturbed. Not giving accurate, fair, or equal coverage to all aspects; partial.
Set the intention to grow in the area of weakness with conviction!