Satisfied or happy because of fully developing one’s abilities or character
- Assess what is important for you to feel at this time in your life.
- Identify what’s missing.
- Decide to change the activities or people that do not serve you life any more.
- Create new opportunities, activities or make new friends that will bring in the feelings of fulfilment.
Beliefs and Affirmations
Every day, I feel I am achieving something worthwhile that gives me fulfilment, contentment and a zest for life.
(How to make it very EASY to feel the positive emotion)
Anytime I am being the best I can be, I feel Fulfilled.
Anytime I am happy and fulfilled I increase my feeling of Love and Connection.
My daughter leaves home tomorrow. (DC001)
My diary is so full of appointments there is no time for me!!! (DC084)
DC108 There is no laughter in the house anymore and everything seems strained.
DC113 I get drawn into my children’s squabbles and end up being the baddie!
“Only those who have learned the power of sincere and selfless contribution experience life’s deepest joy: true fulfilment.” – Tony Robbins
Are You Chasing What You Really Want?
When I work with clients on the topic of “Creating A Life You Love”, we look at the things they spend most of their time on, and then compare these to the things they really want. Do you think the two are aligned? NO!
You’re either aligned or you’re not. There is a unique set of values for YOU, that if followed, will allow you to live a fulfilled life. On your death bed you will be able to look back with a smile, knowing “I LIVED MY LIFE!” If your current priorities are fully aligned with these, then you probably have a sense of contentment and fulfilment.
If your current priorities are significantly “out of line” with what’s REALLY important to you, you are probably very busy, constantly rushing, a little stressed, and when you get what your chasing – it’s never enough! You turn around and go: “NEXT!” This is because we can never get enough of what we don’t really want.
The Things We Chase
The “Things We Chase” list often includes: money, fame/recognition, sex, power/responsibility, achievement, big house/car, more time.
The “Things we REALLY want” list often includes: love, intimacy, adventure, peace, security, creativity/expression and freedom.
If you still think you really want something on the first list ……. think again. Ask yourself: “When I get the car/house/promotion/money … what will I have then?” You’ll probably find the answer on the second list. For example, a client of mine thought she wanted to accomplish and achieve. It turned out what she REALLY wanted was to feel accepted – the achieving was really an attempt to feel accepted.
“Normal is getting dressed in clothes that you buy for work, driving through traffic in a car that you are still paying for, in order to get to the job that you need so that you can pay for the clothes, car and house that you leave empty all day in order to afford to live in it”.
The fact is: we can never get enough of what we don’t really want!!
So why is it we spend our time on the first list, and not directly on the second? Some say it’s because we settle; we accept money. One client said “I believe that if I get the things I’m chasing – money, recognition, etc. – then we’ll have the love, peace, security etc. we REALLY want. But does it really work that way??
WHY NOT GO STRAIGHT FOR THE GOOD STUFF? Go straight for love, adventure, security, peace, or whatever is important to you.
Work out what it ACTUALLY is that you want……………
Ask yourself: “What’s ONE thing I want more of in my life?” Really! If an angel floated down and said you get ONE thing, or more of one thing you already have, and nothing else in life, what would you pick? Is it money? Power? Fame? Love? Adventure? Peace? Full self- expression?
What do you spend your time chasing? If you value intimacy or “strong friendships” most, do you actively build and strengthen your friendships, or do you spend your time working on making more cash? Do the “80 test”: imagine lying on your death bed looking back at your life. Will your current set of priorities – the things you’re NOW chasing – allow you to look back on your life and smile, knowing you lived life to the fullest?
If you’re aligned – congratulations! If not, now’s the time to write down HOW you are going to realign. What are you willing to give up to realign? Specifically what is the action you will take?
Perhaps an example will help: Suppose you’ve been spending too much time at the office chasing achievement or money, and you’re now realigning towards health and vitality. What’s the maximum number of hours you’ll work each week, and EXACTLY what will you do now during those saved hours that supports your health and vitality?