Upset
Definition
Feeling anxious, uneasiness,trouble or grief.
Practical Tips
- Identify the trigger that made you upset, now look beyond that, to the deeper reason, which of your Values does it conflict with?
- Sometimes sharing your problem can help.
- Work out how to turn the situation around.
- See the upset as an opportunity for your own personal growth.
Beliefs and Affirmations
I am able to stay calm when I need to work out what to do when I am Upset.
Rules
(How to make it very HARD to feel the negative emotion)
The only time I will allow myself to feel……………Upset, is when I haven’t thought of a way of turning things around.
Example Challenges
My Mum misunderstood me when I asked her if I could borrow some money, she thought I wanted her to give it to me and now she’s taken the huff! (DC005)
DC111 When my husband is disciplining the children, I get drawn in and end up falling out with everyone!
DC113 I get drawn into my children’s squabbles and end up being the baddie!
Quotes
“People don’t just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.”
– Albert Ellis