124 O6 Negative Emotion – Offended

Offended

Definition

Cause to feel upset, annoyed, or resentful.

Beliefs and Affirmations

I have the knack of dissolving an offensive remark by seeing it as their issue, not mine.

Rules

(How to make it very HARD to feel the negative emotion)

The only time I will allow myself to feel………………..Offended, is when my response is an emotional knee jerk reaction, rather than a neutral one.

Example Challenges

Negative Feedback from a work colleague about my professional expertise.  (DC003)

Practical Tips

  1. If you feel Offended, it’s pushed one of your buttons, (touched one of your Values) look to see if there is any truth in the offending remark, look from above your emotions.
  2. The comment might be more about them than you, they may be projecting their ‘stuff’ onto you.
  3. Deal and respond from a neutral position, as opposed to an emotional knee jerk reaction. You can choose whether to take offence or not.

Quotes

“I’m not offended by all the dumb blonde jokes because I know I’m not dumb… and I also know that I’m not blonde.”
-Dolly Parton

“Whenever anyone has offended me, I try to raise my soul so high that the offense cannot reach it.”
-Rene Descartes

“Don’t take anything personally. nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions of others, you wont be the victim of needless suffering.” – Don Miguel Ruiz

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