124 O1 Negative Emotion – Out of Control

Out of Control

Definition

Not under management or direction; unmanageable or wild.

Practical Tips

  1. Take responsibility for your own position.
  2. Have certainty around what you want to happen.
  3. Set intentions and move towards taking control, whatever that looks like, it might mean letting go, it might mean creating boundaries.

Beliefs and Affirmations

I can relinquish control of situations out of my control, which frees me up to enjoy life and feel lighter.

Rules

(How to make it very HARD to feel the negative emotion)

The only time I will allow myself to feel…………..Out of Control, is when circumstances are literally Out of My Control.

The only time I will allow myself to feel Out of Control, is when I don’t stop and give myself time to respond.

The only time I will allow myself to feel Out of Control is when, I allow others to run my life.

The only time I will allow myself to feel…………..Out of Control, is when I don’t attempt to turn things round.

The only time I will allow myself to feel…………..Out of Control, is when I allow other people to influence my life.

Example Challenges

My son keeps being cheeky, answering me back, in a not very nice way.   (DC018)

DC089 I worry about Health of myself, kids and family.

My husband disciplines the children in a way I don’t agree with. (DC101)

DC144 My daughter has ‘Power of Attorney’ with my money and I feel like I’ve lost control!

DC145 I’m living in a place I don’t want to be (an old folks home) and I’m definitely not ready for it!!

Quotes

“Behaviours are a choice. Feelings are sometimes out of our control. Behaviour has to do with choices. ”
– Randall Terry

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