124 G2 Negative Emotion – Guilty

Guilty

Definition

Feeling responsible of/for a specified wrong doing.

Practical Tips

  1. First check that the guilt you feel is actually something you have direct responsibility for, many of us take on other peoples guilt, if this is the case decide to let it go!
  2. If the guilt is over a perceived wrong doing, can you do anything to rectify the situation?
  3. Take the learning from the ‘guilt’ situation, change your behaviour if necessary and let go of the negative feelings.
  4. Guilt from the past can eat away inside of you and make you ill.
  5. We often feel guilty for not reaching the expectations of ourselves (and others), accept yourself for who you are, not who you ‘should’ be.

Beliefs and Affirmations

When I feel guilt, I know I have to work with it, collapse it in my mind, communicate or act to take responsibility, therefore consciously eradicating it.

Rules

(How to make it very HARD to feel the negative emotion)

The only time I will allow myself to feel….Guilt, is when I haven’t taken responsibility for my actions.

Example Challenges

DC094 I’m having Visitors today and woke up this morning feeling anxious that the house isn’t perfect and immaculate.
DC104 Snapping at someone because you are in a bad mood yourself.
DC121 I’ve not been to the gym and then I feel bad because I didn’t go!
DC122 I’m feeling guilty because I’ve had cake/chocolate and then feel I’ve cheated on my diet.
DC140 My child has been diagnosed with Asperger’s and its tearing me apart.

Quotes

“Guilt is anger directed at ourselves – at what we did or did not do. Resentment is anger directed at others – at what they did or did not do. ”
– Peter McWilliams

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