‘My partner still has his 32 year old daughter under his wing financially and emotionally. It’s blocking our relationship. What can I do?’
I am feeling………..Distant / Stuck / Wound Up
Step 1. (How I would like to feel…)
Hopeful / Progressive / Partnership
Step 2. (Quality Questions for self…)
Have we discussed this issue as a couple?
Am I prepared to take this situation on board within our relationship?
Have I looked at it from all three angles or just my own?
Step 3. (Practical steps leading to Positive Results…)
Discuss the block you feel with your Partner (Use Shelley’s Script if you don’t know how to approach the subject).
Accepting that his daughter is high up on his Values…. look to accommodate her needs in an appropriate manner.
Work at overcoming any resentment that may have built up against her…..ongoing, it could taint your relationship.
Appreciate that your Partner has created this situation (through his own set of beliefs, values and rules) and loving him for who he is will turn him into the person you love (unconditionally).
Just know that working (emotionally) on these situations to fruition, will bring massive rewards.