‘My husband/partner keeps watching porn on the internet, instead of being with me.’
I am feeling….. Grudge / Rejected / Unloved
Step 1. (How I would like to feel…)
Cherished / Desired / Togetherness
Step 2. (Quality Questions for self…)
How can I communicate with him about this subject?
What can I do to make myself more desirable?
Is this just a phase?
Can we work through this issue together?
Step 3. (Practical steps leading to Positive Results…)
Express your feelings to your husband, use ‘Shelley’s Script’ if you don’t know where to form the conversation.
Acceptance of this habit could be the answer, IF it is not detrimental to your relationship.
If it is an addiction, there may be deep underlining reasons for it, which might need professional help (like any addiction).
Decide what it is YOU want and what it takes for YOU to feel loved, talk this through with your spouse.
Refrain from talking and rowing in a negative way…. work towards improving the relationship together.