‘I’ve just had a ‘first date’ and now she hasn’t replied to my text. I thought we had got on really well!’
I am feeling…..Abandoned / Distracted / Rejected
Step 1. (How I would like to feel…)
Connected / Hopeful / Valued
Step 2. (Quality Questions for self…)
Am I pinning too much hope on this situation?
Am I expecting an immediate response to a text they might not yet have seen?
How can I put this situation to the back of my mind whilst I get on with my own life?
Is this a recurring pattern of behaviour that I need to address?
Step 3. (Practical steps leading to Positive Results…)
Having sent the text, now step back and wait for them to respond.
Know that if the relationship is going to move forward, it will do at it’s own rate.
Refrain from pinning your hopes of happiness on another person, it can come across as ‘needy’ if you repeatedly text for a response.
Focus your attention on other important areas of your life.
Being fulfilled and happy within yourself whilst patiently waiting for the right partner for you to come along, is the way forward.
Embrace the potential excitement of a new and satisfying relationship, knowing that it is on it’s way; and if it’s not this person, it will be someone else.