‘My partner doesn’t let me know when he isn’t going to meet me (pre-arranged times). It’s driving me crazy!’
I am feeling…..Angry / Resentful / Used
Step 1. (How I would like to feel…)
Harmony / Love and Connection / Secure
Step 2. (Quality Questions for self…)
How can I communicate the way I feel in a non-confrontational way?
Does this pattern play out anywhere else in mine or their lives?
Do I need to set new ground rules and be more assertive?
Am I prepared to be messed around?
Step 3. (Practical steps leading to Positive Results…)
Wait until you feel Calm to bring up this subject with your Partner, you don’t want to send them of on a tangent with an emotional outburst.
Let them know how being let down makes you feel.
Create new boundaries and ground rules that you find acceptable (prior warning…communication etc.).
Express your concerns around the lack of respect shown when being stood up.
Prepare a script and run through it beforehand if necessary. (See Shelley’s Script for assistance)
Stand up for yourself and have strength in your own Self Worth…….you deserve to be treated well!