121a Daily Challenge DC136

Daily Challenge……Relationships

‘My partner is continually texting someone else and I don’t trust him any more.’
I am feeling…..Angry / Devastated / Frightened

Step 1. (How I would like to feel…)
Cherished / Love / Trust

Step 2. (Quality Questions for self…)
How and when is the best time to tackle this subject with my Partner?
Have we been close recently?
Could there be an underlying problem in our relationship?
If so, have I not been paying enough attention?

Step 3. (Practical steps leading to Positive Results…)

Before you confront your Partner, calm down and wait till the shock and anger has gone down.
If you get upset they might try to appease you rather than be honest or they might shut down or walk away.
Ask open ended questions rather than accusing them. (e.g. Why have you text them so many times last week? / What effect is this having on our relationship?)
Don’t lay down the law in banning or shaming them. The idea is to get them to see they’ve overstepped the boundaries.
Listen instead of arguing; nod and encourage them to say more.
Talk about the underlying problem, it could be a cry for help.
Find out why your life together isn’t working.
Work towards improving your communication and turning your relationship around.

DC136

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