121a Daily Challenge DC135

Daily Challenge……Relationships / Marriage

My husband expects me to accept the fact he has a mistress, because ‘He loves us both so much’!!!
I am feeling…..Confused / Fear of Being Alone / Used

Step 1. (How I would like to feel…)
Harmony / Loved / Peace

Step 2. (Quality Questions for self…)
Is this acceptable to me?
How far am I willing to push my own needs?
What needs to happen for me to be happy?
How has this situation evolved and am I partly responsible for it?
What character traits do I need to develop to survive this?

Step 3. (Practical steps leading to Positive Results…)
Circumstances are different in every case but here are a few pointers:
Decide whether this situation is acceptable to you, bearing in mind it can be detrimental to your well being and health if you stay in an intolerable situation.
Voice your despair and if possible, work together to find solutions.
Know with conviction, what you are willing to accept/not accept.
Understand that infidelity can be healed with effort from both sides.
This scenario is often a result of what has been going on in the marriage, so all symptoms need to be addressed.
Seek professional help if necessary (doctors / marriage guidance / coach)
Avoid falling into ‘Victim mode’, as taking joint responsibility for the situation keeps a degree of bitterness and negativity at bay.
Choose who you confide in carefully, anyone too close will have a biased point of view.
Remember to stay strong, eat well and look after your own well being whilst going through such a traumatic period. Your strength is very important.