‘When my husband is disciplining the children, I get drawn in and end up falling out with everyone!’
I am feeling…..Blamed / Confrontational / Upset
Step 1. (How I would like to feel…)
Calm / In Control / Supportive
Step 2. (Quality Questions for self…)
Do I interfere when I should be standing back?
Is my interference giving the children mixed messages?
Am I prepared to let go of the interfering and stand back?
Step 3. (Practical steps leading to Positive Results…)
Pick an appropriate time (away from the children’s ears), to discuss mutually acceptable discipline.
If you can’t agree, decide to step back and not get involved.
See the situation from your partners point of view, knowing they have different Values and past experiences.