‘My Adult children, living at home and not making enough effort to find a job and bring some money in.’
I am feeling…..Frustrated / Ignored / Used
Step 1. (How I would like to feel…)
Calm / Respected / Supportive
Step 2. (Quality Questions for self…)
Am I approaching the matter in an ‘adult’ way?
Am I respecting the ‘young adults’ Values?
Am I trying to impose my ideals onto them?
Am I willing to pass over the responsibility to them, and let go of telling them what they ‘should’ be doing?
Step 3. (Practical steps leading to Positive Results…)
Focus on the benefits to your daughter life of
Consider what is important to the ‘young adult’ and respect there judgement.
Create financial boundaries that will encourage and motivate them to want to work. (i.e. Don’t keep funding their habits)
Communicate in a way that helps, rather than hinders.