‘My 72 year mother visits my Nan on the train which takes about 2 hours each way, and she usually has to wait on her own at the station.’
I am feeling…..Agitated / Concerned / Distracted
Step 1. (How I would like to feel…)
Admiration / Calm / Comfortable
Step 2. (Quality Questions for self…)
Is Mum of sound mind and able to make her own decisions?
Is she fulfilling her Values and Purpose for living?
Can I let go of taking responsibility for her?
Does her independence give her freedom and would you really want to take that away from her?
Step 3. (Practical steps leading to Positive Results…)
Express your concern, if you really feel the need to, and then allow yourself to let go of ‘mothering’ her from a distance, she probably wouldn’t thank you for it.
Just know that to be able to be that independent, is a great thing and have it as something you would wish for yourself!