‘”Dad going off on his own in his motorhome on a 4 hour journey.
Then he goes walking up mountains that he used to run up when he was 30, but now he’s 72 and not quite so stable. He turns his mobile on when he needs it (which is never), so he’s out of contact!”‘
I am feeling…..Agitated / Distracted / Worried
Step 1. (How I would like to feel…)
Admiration / Comfortable /Supportive
Step 2. (Quality Questions for self…)
Is Dad of sound mind and able to make his own decisions?
Is he fulfilling his Values and Purpose for living?
Can I let go of taking responsibility for him?
Is what he is doing making him happy?
Step 3. (Practical steps leading to Positive Results…)
Express your concern, if you really feel the need to, and then allow yourself to let go of ‘mothering’ him from a distance, he probably wouldn’t thank you for it.
Allow your Dad to take responsibility for his own well-being.
Trust him to know when he reaches his limits.
Admire him for his level of tenacity and energy!! and aspire to be the same .