Listen To Sue On The Delicate Subject of Communicating with an Ex Husband………….
Daily Challenge……Relationships / Divorce
‘My ex husband keeps bad mouthing me to my children and it’s very distressing for them and for me.’
I am feeling…..Angry / Frustrated / Indignant
Step 1.(How I would like to feel………..)
Calm / Collaborative / Moving forward
Step 2. (Quality Questions for self…)
How can I approach my ex over this issue in a non-confrontational way?
Shall I ring/write or email?
How do I want us to be conducting our parts as co-parents?
Am I behaving in a reasonable way myself?
Step 3.(Practical steps leading to Positive Results…)
Look at your situation from a distance and write down how you’d like to co-parent the children.
Write or have a conversation to that effect (see Shelleys script in Survival Tools).
Have a calm, civilised dialogue presenting the benefits to the children and the bigger picture when putting your case forward (out of earshot of the children).