Listen To Sue On A Parenting Issue
My son keeps being cheeky, answering me back, in a not very nice way. I am feeling…..Angry / Out Of Control / Unloved
Step 1.(How I would like to feel………..)
Heard / Loved / Respected
Step 2.(Quality Questions for self…)
Am I behaving like my child? (shouting, being sarcastic etc.)
Do I recognise any ‘learnt’ behaviours?
How can I manage this communication differently?
Are my expectations realistic?
Step 3.(Practical steps leading to Positive Results…)
Stand back and view situation from a distance.
Inspect your expectations in relation to the child’s values.
Link what you want to happen, to something that is important to the child.
Consider compromising or change your delivery if you recognise your behaviour or communication is inappropriate.